I have said it several times that there are three rules before you can find Mr Right or in some cases Mrs. Right. So here is my advice. 1.) You have to be happy with yourself and love yourself. If you don't love yourself how can you expect or hope for someone else to love you. 2.) You have to be content with what you have more before you can gain more. 3.) You have to know what you looking for. Make a list that way you know what you want.
So here is my list.
Must Have
these are things he has to have, there is no negotiation.
1.) He must believe in and have a relationship with God.
2.) He must have a job that pays same as or more than my teaching job does.
3.) I must think he is attractive.
4.) He must think I'm beautiful not matter what. I could be all done up with my makeup or covered in cement dust, he will look at me and think I'm beautiful.
5.) He must want to spend time with me and what we do doesn't really matter. He should be willing going to the teacher store with me. If he does this, I'm will to go where he wants to go i.e. the music store.
I know some of them seem shallow, but if there is no attraction than how does a relationship start. If you aren't willing to be with me and spend time together how does a relationship grow.
So how does James measure up to this
Must Have
1.) He does
2.) He does
3.) I do. I have the hottest husband out there.
4.) He does. There was a day in Korea when we didn't plan on seeing each other, so I didn't put on makeup that morning, he texted and said we could meet for dinner. He told me I looked beautiful.
5.) He is fine with doing anything with. When can be in a room, he can be watching t.v. and I can be reading book. Now he's never gone to teaching store, but he took me to old navy and the bookstore my first week back in the states. I went to see hurt locker with him.
The Wants
these are things he doesn't have to have but bonus points if he does
1.) Nice
2.) Sweet
3.) Compassionate
4.) He doesn't have to do Amor, but he needs to understand that it's something I do
5.) ok with my dog
6.) Smart
7.) Social
8.) understanding that I will do some kind of ministry now matter where I am
So how does James measure up
1.) yes
2.) yes
3.) yes
4.) He has done Amor, so he understands and is willing to go with me.
5.) he likes her
6.) yes
7.) yes
8.) he does
Deal breakers
if the guy has all the other things, but has one of these it doesn't matter it's off
1.) smoking
2.) drugs
3.) aggressive
4.) angry
5.) bitter
How does James measure up
1.) no
2.) no
3.) no
4.) no
5.) no
James is perfect and I can see that God added things to my list. Here is what God added
Someone who loves music
He makes me feel like I'm the only and most important person out there even in a room full of people
He hates pb cups.
