Why I think the Oregon Bakers are wrong.

One of the things that has been in the news a lot lately is the bakers in Oregon who refused to bake a wedding cake for a same sex wedding. Most people are up in arms and think they are being mistreated by the government for being Christian. That may be possible, but I think they made some very simple mistakes and were irresponsible. So here are three simple points about why I think they are in the wrong.

First off, Paul writes very clearly that we should be good law following citizens. This means that we should be following the laws that are in place. If the law says you should only drive 70mph down the I-95, the fastest you should drive on the I-95 is 70. If the laws says that you should be in bed and asleep by 10pm, guess where you should be at 10pm. If the law says you shouldn't refuse service to anyone for any reason, you probably shouldn't turn people away. In order to be a good law following citizen, we must then know what the laws are. I find that being unaware of what the laws are is irresponsible. Now should we follow the law blindly, No. However we do need to be aware of the laws and know what they are. So saying we had no idea about the law is failing on their part.

Now secondly, if you choice to say the law is conflicting with what my religion teaches me, you should be prepared to face the consequences. We see two good examples of this in Daniel. Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego decided not to the follow the law and were throw into the furnace. They didn't whine and cry about. They didn't say that the government was being harsh. They faced the consequence and hoped for the best. Daniel also when through the same thing. Daniel refused to follow the law and was thrown in the lion's den. The king had more issues with this than Daniel did. Daniel didn't get on facebook and update his status to say something along the lines of that King is awful, and I don't understand why I am being thrown into the lion's den. I'm just doing what my religion teaches me how dare he follow the laws and punish me in the fashion the laws says it will. Daniel went into the lion's den and hoped for the best. These 2 stories teach that it is ok not to follow the law when the law of the land conflicts with God's laws, however be prepared to suffer the consequence. A few years ago, I went to India on a mission trip. In order to get a visa into India part of the application has you sign that you will not be spreading the Christian Gospel while there. I was going on a mission trip but I signed it anyway. It also that if I was caught doing this I would get sent back to my country of origin. At the time of this trip, I was living in Korea, my life, my job, and my money were in Korea, not the USA. If I got caught, I would have been sent back to the USA. I had brought enough money with me so that if I did get sent back to the USA, I could buy a plane ticket back to Korea. I was aware of the law, and prepared to pay the consequences. If you choice to say I can't follow the law because of my religion you need to be prepared to pay the consequences. These bakers aren't prepared for the consequences.

Lastly, we are suppose to look at Christ as our example. When we interact with people, we should look at how Christ did it. Christ didn't turn anyone away. Everyone that came to Christ go what they were asking for. He didn't look at anyone and say, "Sorry you've made bad life choices and I can't heal." He didn't look at the guy who lowered down through the hole in the roof and say, "I know your friends just put a hole in someone's ceiling, but you are sinning so greatly, I can't do anything for you." After everyone left the one caught in adultery and pick up a stone. If Christ turned no one away then we should turn no one.

So these bakers made the wrong choices. 

My pregnancy

If it were up to me, I wouldn't have announced that I was pregnant. One reason is that everyone in the world now thinks that it is their "right" to give me advice. The only thing worse than being pregnant and high school is unsolicited advice. Most people will say that it comes out of love. As someone who is told regularly that I love and care too much, I don't give unsolicited advice. This reason is for this is because I can't fully understand another person, I don't know all they have done or tried. Also the place where most unsolicited advice comes from a place where the advice giver thinks that they know more and know better. I'm very much against pushing things on people and that is what unsolicited advice is. I don't push my thoughts views, opinions and advice on you, so why should you do it to me.

I've had it confirmed by other women being pregnant isn't always wonderful. I've had someone tell it's not their favorite. Being pregnant is very overrated especially in the beginning. I know. I've spent the last 10 weeks waking up half an hour early so that I puke before I start day. This really sucks and gets old real quick. I get drained of energy real quick. There is nothing tangible about what is going on the inside. There is nothing tangible about the life inside which makes it hard to think about it. It is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you haven't experienced it. If we are being real and honest, there times are when being pregnant are just awful and miserable.

Something that makes being pregnant harder is when it is something you didn't want. I didn't marry James and think oh now I get pregnant. I honestly never wanted to put myself through something uncomfortable, miserable and painful. I make choices all the time to avoid things that cause this to me. I have never dream of the day when I would a full term pregnancy. It wasn't what I wanted for my life.

I know very well that this is blessing. I still have joy. I am honest with how feel about things, and I think that sugar coating is wrong. I think that telling people how they should feel or respond to things is also wrong especially if you don't know everything. I've seen God shower blessing on people and they couldn't be happy because of their life situations, however I've seen them still have joy.

I will not being posting anything about my pregnancy from here on out. If you want to know you'll have to ask me.

Why I'm not a Christian.

I've quit professing that I'm a Christian. I will say things like I have a relation ship with Christ or I follow  Christ, but I'm not a Christian. The thing is that this word has started to mean something I don't like, or that it should. Some how being Christian has come to mean that you can now mistreat, you can no longer care about human rights, and we can judge and condemn. You can suddenly start doing things that lead to mistreating people and it should be ok and we should all stand behind because you are Christian.

This isn't Christ. I remember lots of people coming to Christ. I don't remember him turning people away. He never said to Mary Magdalen, "Sorry, you've made poor life choices, I can't help you." Christ didn't say, "I know your friends just made a hole in someone else roof, but your gay and I can't heal you." Jesus spent time with people who were in the greatest sense a sinner, and never told them He couldn't help. If you are a "Christian", isn't this the example. I clearly remember Him saying he came in the world to save it, not to condemn. Where did we get the idea that we could condemn it?

It doesn't make sense that we have a clear example of love and serving, and somehow we think that in the name of religion we can mistreat others. What happened? I understand that we aren't suppose to ok with sinning. I'm pretty sure there is only person who never sinned. It isn't Christlike to turn people, it just isn't something he did. If we are going to say it's ok to turn away someone who is gay because they are gay, they we need to star turning people away who view porn, we need to start turning away people who've been divorced, we need to start turning away woman who've had an abortion.

Until being Christian is something more like what suppose be, something that reflects Christ, I'm not one.